Always it has been a haunting side for nearly every student, something or the other keeps troubling them deep inside. The vulnerable stages that I came across in my life started when I felt at a point that it’s become my choice vs my parents’, what I think about myself and what they do. Also, its very often the parents are not really convinced with what you want to do or when you tell them about your choice or what you have decided for yourself.. I’m sure there are many students like this. I used to get frustrated when they used to say, leave it, you can’t do it. I’ve prepared for exams like CAT, U.P.S.C. and Banking. To tell you the truth, at that time I didn’t know what I was doing and where it’s going to take me. It just confused the hell out of me and I didn’t know what do I do now. My father never seemed convinced with my choices and capabilities, fortunately, my mother seemed. She also supported my decisions. And I think that helped me realize the most important thing, that what do I do now. I realized that preparing for Govt. exams is not my cup of tea and I was simply complicating myself. So, immediately I decided to get a job, no matter even it was a private job. I can see now that the decision I took was right and worthy. But one thing that hasn’t changed is, my father is still not convinced with this. But as I see, I’m giving my best to what I have pursued, and I think that’s what exactly matters.

Have you ever been through a situation similar to this?

    yes i had been through a situation like this
    When i was at standard 7 my father told me that you should prepare for AIIMS exam and become a doctor but i am not interested in biology. they continuously asked about that whether are you preparing or not till standard 9. I was very depressed but i can’t told to my father that i did’t interested about MBBS but one day my elder sister ask me regarding that and i explain every thing after that she discoursed with my father. And my father asked me that why i am not explained him that about my interest and he give me permission about my interest.
    So i want to tell you one thing when you stuck in any critical stage of your life you should try to talk with your parents because our parents are real good wisher of my life.
    Thanks

    PallaviSingh
    Not exactly similar but somewhat similar that I am going to share .It is related to problems stating from study gap after my graduation and also how did I get overcome to this situation. After completing my graduation I took entrance exam for masters but I could not clear it. It was was my first failure of life for which I had given my 100% after this I was not able to understand what to do in future. So after the gap in my academics i faced lot of health issues due to anxieties related to career. But it is said that God closes one way, opens many ways and I started my preparation for government jobs and chose for SSC CGL exam and gave my first attempt but I could not clear prelims. Again I prepared myself for next CGL exam and cleared prelims but mains again could not clear. But in those times the best thing was I learned a lot from my back to back failures. Meanwhile my CGL exam preparation I also appeared for various government exams. Again I have tried my last attempt but due to some financial issue and long time preparation for the government job I have moved on a job where I can utilise my preparation experiences .So this is the journey of my life till now .

    The main essence of all these things is that never lose hope. Whatever is happening to you is the best. Do your work honestly.

      Okay, talking about the vulnerable stages in my life and how I overcame them, my most vulnerable moment was when everything in my life was falling apart was my graduation result, when i got back in third year of B.com. Every one of my family is against me for not passing the exam and sitting back in the same class. then I realized, Every time you have to push yourself a little more. You cannot take the easy path.

      So, back to your question, what did I do to overcome it? Nothing. Once I understand, only when I stop fighting the desire to feel good, when I stop trying to get rid of distract myself with material pleasures, can I feel, contemplate and understand deeply to connect with my inner self in such a way that I don’t make the pain go away, but suffer it quietly, so my inner self doesn’t have to be all alone on its own.

      You do whatever you want until one day you agree. You allow yourself to feel pain, and then you stand your ground. You become so strong mentally that your vulnerability becomes your strength and you rise.

      this was my story how I overcame a vulnerable stage of my life… tell me yours!

      PallaviSingh
      Although I have been a bright student, there was a time when my future was looking dark due to my results and I was unable to make any decision. The situation was very frightening and whenever I remember the day I feel with tears.
      It was the day of my 12th result. I was not expecting much, but I was also not expecting that bad. I got only 57% marks in 12th. The percentage was that bad that I could not tell my marks to my parents on my own.
      The result was the outcome of my preparation for two things at a single time. I was also preparing for IIT JEE and I was qualified for the mains but my academics were very bad and appearing for IIT mains was not worth it. I am not saying that preparing for IIT and 12th is not possible, but it was not my cup of tea.

      I understood that these two exams need two different preparation, at least for me. But the effect of the result on me was so bad that I went into depression. The only thing that helped me to overcome the situation was the support of the family. That was the day when I realized what the support of a family is.

      I somehow managed the situation with my family’s support and started preparing for the 12th board once. The rest is history. I made 89% that year and topped my school.

        PallaviSingh
        The most vulnerable stage of my life was when i took a drop after my graduation year for preparing for msc entrance exams . It was most critical, depressing stage of my life because at that time every persons life was falling apart due to covid-19. Same situation was mine as due to the pandemic situation my entrance exam and msc admission got delayed and delayed. Due to this i was about to start to think about my career graph very negatively , I started to feel like all bad things are happening to me and now my career has destroyed.
        But at that time I feel very proud to share that my family was there to support me. But that support is also not working as What i wanted to do is not going as per the plan.
        I overcome this by doing tons of things, by focusing on new opportunities that i can do in that period, start looking for a part time opportunity to work, joined distance education, start to belive in myself that everything will get better slowly slowly. Till now i am tackling with this, but I have not stopped and will never stop.

          Whenever u feel vulnerable, just meditate a little. U will feel strong n happy within minutes if u meditate. If u have never experienced that, please do the Sahaj samadhi meditation of the Art of Living. It can give u the fresh energy to take on challenges with a smile. Life is all about challenges and face it with courage and remember one thing “ It Always seems Impossible until Its Done”.

          Mai kafi jyada relate kr skta hu aapse..mujhe to lgta hai lagbhag sabhi students ko kbhi n kabhi aisi situation face krni pdti he..halaki mere to father or mother ne mere multiple failures ke bad bhi kabhi trust nhi khoya mujh pr se..dono hi ka support raha..pr jb aap apni neend kho kr competitive exams ke lye prepare krte ho or 5 sal prepare krne ke bad bhi aapko kuch na mile to student ka devastate hona swabhawik ho jata he..shuru me to khatarnak frustration hui pr ab thodi baht spirituality ki help se overcome kr liya hai maine..I think its more about how u feel by doing something rather than what u r doing.. Ek realization ye bhi hui ki kya mai itni dur quit krne ke lye aaya tha?? These things gave me so much power ki ab mai specially bank ke exams aasani se clear kr pa rha hu or sath me job bhi kr rha hu..Meri suggestion yhi he ki just find ur interest and don’t have a fear of committing mistakes….ye us waqt islye nhi hua qki jis level ka dedidation isme chahiye wo mjhme us waqt nhi thi..i think jo galtiyan nhi krta wo jyada sikhta bhi nhi..just hope for the best and give ur best..

          It is up to individuals to decide whether or not to be vulnerable… There is really no end as long as you are alive, and you may always rise from the ashes to try again.
          Nobody can put a person back if they choose to be vulnerable, however, there are thousands of methods and possibilities waiting for them if they choose to rise again.
          Living is like a heartbeat- it’s fine to move up and down, but it should never stay flat or it’ll be over.

          PallaviSingh
          The most vulnerable stage of my life was after my 12th standard when I was preparing for IIT-JEE. Like every other PCM students, I thought I would crack this exam without much efforts since I was one of the brightest students of my class. But after my first attempt for JEE just after 12th, my dreams of getting into an IIT got shattered as my rank was not upto the mark. My parents being very supportive like always asked me to give it a second try. I was happy because I was getting a second chance to get into my favourite Institute which was an IIT. After preparing for one year, which was a gap year for me, I gave the JEE exam and was quite confident that I would get it through this time. The time came when the results were going to be unveiled, I was very anxious and was praying for the positive. The results shattered my dreams all over again because this time, my ranks were good but not as good as to get into an IIT.
          So, this stage of my life was vulnerable for me, but I overcame it and today, I am at a good phase of my life.

            I feel the most vulnerable in my life whenever I am lonely or fearful. Most of the time, those are the times when my faith is dwindling away from God.
            Since I have discovered God in my life, my walk with Him (sometimes I would call Faith status) contribute the most for my stability in all aspects - emotional, intellectual, and physical.

            My countermeasures then during these times of vulnerability are two fold:-

            1. Strengthen my relationship with God and
            2. Avoiding making major decisions. I always remember the advice of my pastor: “Don’t make major decisions
              whenever you are in the extreme of emotions. Because most likely, those decisions would be wrong.